Mother’s Day was a few days ago, and I received a bunch of texts in a group thread that wished a “Happy Mother’s Day” to “all the beautiful ladies” in the text group.
Oh I feel seen by this post. As a hospital chaplain, I know that mother and father's day is so devastating for people. I was with a family whose mother who died on Sunday and their adult child noted that it added insult to injury that her death was on that day.
In my own loss journey related to fertility, I have way too many stories of "well wishers" who meant well but caused me pain when telling me happy mother's day, while I was miscarrying. Even though my life is different now, I still avoid church on that day. I tell people all the time that they have permission to do whatever feels supportive to them on that day, or any day where grief feels especially tender.
Yes, I was a peds chaplain for many years. Losing a child changed how those days felt for parents. In my book -came out last month- I discuss church on Mother’s Day.
Oh I feel seen by this post. As a hospital chaplain, I know that mother and father's day is so devastating for people. I was with a family whose mother who died on Sunday and their adult child noted that it added insult to injury that her death was on that day.
In my own loss journey related to fertility, I have way too many stories of "well wishers" who meant well but caused me pain when telling me happy mother's day, while I was miscarrying. Even though my life is different now, I still avoid church on that day. I tell people all the time that they have permission to do whatever feels supportive to them on that day, or any day where grief feels especially tender.
Yes, I was a peds chaplain for many years. Losing a child changed how those days felt for parents. In my book -came out last month- I discuss church on Mother’s Day.
@Christine Vaughan Davies Head to my book’s site here. You can read my Mother’s Day chapter for free by clicking on the chapter 11 pdf. https://www.sutrahouse.com/books/cml077vxw0000lb04pa71ymyu
Oh very cool, I'll check it out!